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 I spent most of my  Horse Let Me Check My Giveashitometer Nope Retro Shirt  life deprived of queer community, and since I found it a few years ago, I'm so much happier. It is amazing to find a group of people who validate your experiences and offer support & understanding. I have found I am more comfortable with who I am than I've ever been. None of what you are describing is true for the community I have found. I really hope you can find the right people. Please don't write us all off as toxic - toxic people exist in every community, but they're not the majority in this instance. All the best to you! Buy it:    Horse Let Me Check My Giveashitometer Nope Retro Shirt Home:  Soyatees

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 As a  Paul Walker I Don’t Have Friends I Got Family Shirt  lesbian myself who's never been attracted to men, when other lesbians or well people in general, say things about men like "why does she like him over me" and show as a funny picture of a guy, it's funny. But sometimes, they just label all men as predators, and all men aren't predators, there are lesbian predators too, why are you excluding certain people because they're similar to you, but have done the same thing you're complaining about. it does get annoying. Buy it:  Paul Walker I Don’t Have Friends I Got Family Shirt Home:  Mascaratee

 Sexuality is not a  Witch Riding Horse My Broom Broke So Now I Ride A Horse Halloween Shirt  personality. This goes for anything really. People who love the office and have to be quirky with it. People who dress a certain way with music taste. When people start melding their personality into one particular thing, a lot of times I notice they start gatekeeping it. It’s their thing so they have to guard the sanctity of it. Sexuality, being a super fan, sports. It’s something for people to identify with as this is who they are, rather than one aspect of them. Buy it:  Witch Riding Horse My Broom Broke So Now I Ride A Horse Halloween Shirt  Home:  Mascaratee

 I absolutely agree. I'm a  Top Mens 90s Appreciation Tee Living Single Shirt  gay dude. Love men. Paul Rudd is my celebrity crush. Yet I was told I have internalized homophobic because I prefer masculine men and not obnoxious flamboyant size queens. I also don't participate in "gay culture" because it doesn't appeal to me. I don't like RuPaul, find catchphrases ( yaaas , work it, spill the tea) very annoying and unoriginal, I don't like clubs, drinking, drugs, fashion, or anything to do with vanity. The only thing I have in common with these kinds of gay men is that I love men. That's it. Everything about me isn't screaming that my sexuality is my personality. Nor is it my focal point. Buy it:  Top Mens 90s Appreciation Tee Living Single Shirt Home: Mascaratee

 I’m an  All I Need Kitty That Other Kitty And Those Kitties Over There And Shirt  lesbian, but I get treated as though I’m a TERF simply because whilst I may be attracted to a trans woman and would happily date one, I would struggle to be with them sexually without bottom surgery. My girlfriend is still questioning whether they’re bi or lesbian, and there’s very harmful rhetoric about selfishness and distrust regarding bisexuality as I’m sure you’ve experienced. My friend is a gay man who is constantly expected to put out on Grindr, and is judged for his appearance because he’s not a “gym gay”. I have a trans friend from college who struggled with the number of shitty comments about not being a real man from the internet presence of the LGBTQ+ community.  Buy it:  All I Need Kitty That Other Kitty And Those Kitties Over There And Shirt  Home:  Wardtee

I’ve been in the LGBTQ+ community for  Auntie My Siblings Children Are My Children That I Return When I’m Done Shirt  roughly 6 years now, identifying as a lesbian and I get where you’re coming from. There are some groups that are so toxic and continuously have harmful rhetoric, as do most groups of people. I think it’s very important to differentiate between those shitty groups and understand they aren’t reflective of everyone inside the community. However, the community should not be allowed to pride itself on inclusivity when such ignorance is running rampant between each group. That is something I agree with completely. Buy it:  Auntie My Siblings Children Are My Children That I Return When I’m Done Shirt Home:  Wardtee